DBT Skills for Parents: Reality Acceptance 

Years ago, Nick and I were sitting in our living room in Montreal, having what could have been a make-or-break moment. Our credit cards were maxed. Our job prospects were nil. We were feeling isolated and broken. My anxiety was at an all time high, and both of us were probably a little bit depressed. […]

The Perfectionist Mindset and Embracing Mediocrity

Just in time for Mother’s Day, some thoughts about how I’m not the best mom!  I read this lovely article from MindBodyGreen the other day (thanks Hello Peaceful Mind for the link!). It was full of great advice, but one thing really stood out. It said when you’re depressed, you’re only functioning at 20%, not your usual 70-90%. My […]

DBT For Parents: IMPROVE the Moment for Distress Tolerance 

​ I have already talked a bit in this space about distress tolerance. One of the commonalities between most people living with mental illness is that we have BIG emotions. Whether it is a chemical imbalance or a result of trauma, we react to things a little more extremely than that situation warrants. While this sensitivity […]

DBT Skills for Parents: ACCEPTS for Distress Tolerance

When you’re with kids all day, there are inevitably moments of chaos and distress. There’s nothing like multiple screaming kids clinging to you to send you into a panic! When you live with mental illness, It isn’t just regular moments of distress that spike your cortisol spiking. Depending on your individual triggers, simple things like […]

DBT Skills for Parents: Wise Mind 

Today was a day of toddler battles. There were mundane ones (leaving the house, leaving the park, tot sharing, potty breaks) and spectacular ones (spraying water around the kitchen, a poop explosion, food coloring, a giant stick near picture frames). So when B decided to pour out a whole jar of sprinkles on the table […]